And The Right Person Will Make You Fall In Love With Yourself Too

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Silent (Japanese Drama)

I used to think that loving someone meant losing myself in them—giving everything I had to make them happy, even if it meant leaving nothing for myself. I believed that to be loved, I had to sacrifice parts of who I was, change into what they wanted me to be, and make myself smaller to fit into the small space they allowed. To me, love was about how much I could give up for someone else, even if it meant forgetting what made me, me.

But then I met you.

You didn’t ask me to change to meet your expectations or to give more than I had. You never made me feel like I was too much or not enough. Instead, you saw me—the real me—and didn’t turn away. You accepted all the parts of me I thought I had to hide—the messy, flawed, and broken pieces I was ashamed of. And slowly, I realized that the right person doesn’t just fill the empty spaces inside you—they help you see that those spaces were never empty at all.

You showed me that love isn’t about losing myself.

It’s about discovering who I am, valuing my own worth, and knowing I don’t have to change to be worthy of love. You helped me see that I am enough just as I am, and that loving someone doesn’t mean giving up my identity or self-respect.

I started noticing the little things you would do—the way you listened, not just to my words, but to my silences too. The way you encouraged me to pursue my dreams, to speak up when I felt unheard, and to stand tall even when I felt like shrinking. You made me want to become a better version of myself, not for you, but for me.

You showed me that love should lift us up, not hold us back.

With you, I never felt the need to say sorry for my feelings or act like someone I wasn’t. You made it safe for me to be vulnerable, to accept my flaws, and to show the parts of myself I used to hide. Because of you, I realized that those flaws weren’t weaknesses—they were just parts of me that also deserved to be seen and loved.

Slowly, I started falling in love with myself too.

It didn’t happen all at once but slowly over time. I began to see myself the way you did—the way you looked at me when I spoke about what I loved, the pride you felt in my little achievements, the kindness you showed even when I was at my worst. You appreciated every part of me, even the ones I had trouble accepting. And because of that, I started appreciating them too.

For the first time, I didn’t feel like I had to be perfect to be loved.

I could be messy, emotional, and imperfect, and still be worthy of affection and respect. You showed me that love isn’t about completing each other—it’s about encouraging each other to grow. With you, I didn’t feel like I was searching for my other half. I felt whole, just as I was.

You made me realize that the right person doesn’t come into your life to fill a void or make you feel less alone. They come to show you your own light, to help you see yourself the way they do—strong, capable, and deserving of love. They help you find your voice when you’ve lost it, remind you of your worth when you’ve forgotten, and make you believe that you are enough just as you are.

And that’s what you did for me.

You didn’t just make me fall in love with you; you helped me fall in love with myself too.

By loving you, I learned to love myself more. I realized that this is what true love should be. It’s not about losing yourself in someone else; it’s about discovering who you are and knowing that you are enough for the world and for someone who truly sees you.

So, thank you for showing me that love is more than just sacrifice and compromise. Thank you for helping me see that I am not hard to love, that my feelings aren’t too much, and that I deserve to be happy like everyone else. Thank you for helping me believe in myself again.

Because of you, I’ve learned to be my own person, to accept every part of who I am, and to love the person I’ve become.

And I think that’s the most beautiful thing anyone could ever give—to make someone fall in love with themselves too.